Helicopter Parenting Can Back Fire
Many parents these days over schedule and are over involved with their children. This way of parenting can back fire causing them to rebel and not engage in these activities and even avoid spending time with you. Of course as a parent you want the best for your child, but by over booking them in endless activities you may be missing what's most important for them, you. It's important to let them choose their activities and balance out their time effectively so that they have plenty of free time also. Spending time with them is crucial for creating and keeping a connection with them. You want to be supportive and listen, but not overbearing and hovering. They will appreciate the freedom you give them and will be more willing to come to you when they are dealing wit problems or even just to spend time with you.
Being a Better Supportive Co-parent
Co-parenting can be challenging but it's necessary to have an open and honest relationship in order for your child to thrive and be socially well adjusted. It's important to discuss your parenting goals together. Having this open communication will make it clear where you both stand on issues regarding your child. Honor their goals and decisions. When issues with your child come up try to respond in a way that honors both of your goals and decisions. When you are at a place where a major decision needs to be made, discuss it with your partner and be willing to compromise to reach a final decision. If your partner has made a decision that you are not in agreement with discuss it and try to come to an agreement on how to proceed. When your child sees that you and your partner can discuss issues and make decisions together they will understand the importance of how to compromise in a relationship and how to work with someone in order to achieve the results that they want in life.
Traveling with Your Teen
Summer travel is here and traveling with your teen can be a challenge, but I've got some tips to keep in mind for before during and after your trip. Let your teen have a say in how many place you will see ad stop at, if they feel included they will be more willing to participate. have everyone prepare a playlist for the road. Set a limit to electronics use, for you too,, don't be a hypocrite. Pick a plan that works best for you and your family. Keep food and drinks in the car so you don't have to stop so much and keep your teen happy. If you are staying at a hotel don't make them clean up, allow them to keep their room just as they do at home. Have a set budget for your teen that they can spend while you're on vacation or have one for each place that you stop. Most importantly give them some freedom, create boundaries where they can travel by themselves, like a five block radius that they need to stay within. All of these things will help your vacation go smoothly and you'll get to have some fun and so will they!
Traveling Abroad With Your Kids
Traveling with your children is a great way for them to experience different cultures and see sights they have never seen before. The most important thing is to be prepared, with a little planning and research you can be sure your trip will be safe and fun. Read up on the locations you will be visiting to find out more about the surroundings. Prepare for any health issues that could come up, like if you will need to purchase drinking water or if you need medications for certain locations. If you are going to want some time alone check into any child care that may be available. Talk to your children about where you will be visiting and the possible dangers. You will want them to bring things that make them, comfortable like a favorite toy, book, or magazine that they can have on hand when you are doing a lot of waiting, for trains, or planes etc. The most helpful thing you can do is t create a list of all the things you will need to take care of before you depart.
Protect Your Child from Dehydration this Summer
This is the season where children want to be outside as much as possible and if you live in a warm climate keeping them hydrated is really important. Know the signs of dehydration; tiredness, headache and decreased urine output. Some signs of severe dehydration that may need medical attention are extreme thirst, fever, rapid heartbeat and exhaustion. Keep cold water on hand in the car, having a cooler of water is also a good idea. Encourage your child to drink water. You can flavor it with a small amount of juice or even straight lemon or lime juice to avoid added sugar. Require some rest periods throughout the day even if they say they are not tired. Monitor your child's appearance taking notice if they don't look right or he is acting out of sorts. keeping your child hydrated will keep them having fun in the sun.
Outdoor Games for Kids
Nicer weather is approaching and it's a time to get out and enjoy the warm days, move around and have fun in the sun. Sometimes it may be hard for kids to come up with something fun to play that doesn't involve video games or the computer. If you can't make it to the playground or the swimming pool think about the games you played as a kid. I read about five fun outdoor games that are great for when you're camping at the park or even in your own backyard. It also just happens to be National Backyard Games week this week! Check out the post five fun outdoor games for kids
Sharing a Passion With Your Children
Summer is on it's way, a great time to make a summer reading list. I really enjoy reading and even though my son is only 3 he loves it too. He may not be able to read the books I really love, but we can read the children's books I loved as a child. It's great to share my passion of reading with him, we have created a connection by sitting and enjoying the stories together. We also get to know each other in a very direct way by sharing our favorites with each other. As he grows older, maybe he'll be interesting in reading some of my favorites.
Safe Bug Repellants for Children
Camping season is coming soon which means the bugs will be too. You don't want to be using any spray on newborns, you need to wait until your child is at least 2 months old. Almost all bug repellents have DEET in them which gets the job done but is very toxic. There are five very good bug repellant brands to look for for your child, that you can use for yourself and your pets too. California baby has all natural products and a great bug spray containing cedar, citronella and lemongrass. Bug Off wipes may be more appealing if using a spray on your little one is difficult. Lafe's Organic baby Insect Repellent is the only organic choice and it comes in a BPA-free bottle. If you're looking for a nice scent, Kiss My Face has a lemon-scented bug spray. Burt's Bees is an all-natural herbal spray and some have reported that it works well on pets too. You can find many of these at Target or natural food stores.
The Myth of the Typical Child
Are you one of those parents that needs t know what percentile your child is in? Do you get worried if they are not walking or talking at the "right" age? many parents are consumed by the charts and graphs of their child's developmental stages. A friend of mine said to me once that by the time kids are at about age five, they can all walk, talk and are potty trained. Parents just need to relax and enjoy the stages their child reaches and they should be confident that their child will reach all the necessary milestones. If you really feel that your child is out of the norm then discuss it with your doctor. You can rest assure that these guidelines are really to help to doctors and parents detect potential problems, so don't allow them to be cause of unnecessary worry.
Taking Breaks Instead of Time-Outs
Traditional time-outs are having your child go into a corner facing the wall for whatever length of time is established to remedy bad behavior. It doesn't always work, especially if your child is totally out of control or is very upset. Putting them in a corner at that stage can make things worse. Next time bad behavior ensues try to help calm them down. Let them know that you understand that they are upset, angry, or sad and that they should try and calm down. It may even work to have the try and take deep breaths to wind them down. You may even say to them "I cannot talk to you when you're crying, whining, or screaming, please settle down so I can help you." Create a place for them to go to relax and calm down. The space could be in their room or a common area of the house. Put some pillows out and maybe some books to encourage them to relax and regroup. Many times when young children act out, it's because they have a hard time expressing their feelings so they resort to hitting, screaming or crying. Giving them a chance to slow down and take a moment can make a big difference in helping them work through their feelings and talk to them about the situation.