Personal Parent Coaching Online Parenting Coach

Personal Parent Coaching Online is an excellent way to learn an effective non-punitive parenting style when you have young children. You can minimze and even avoid misbehavior problems that many parents assume they will have to deal with. However, you can start with children of any age from babies to teens. You can learn learn this powerful parenting approach while dealing with specific problems you may already have.

It was over ten years ago that we put the first ever parenting classes online at LifeMatters.com. At that time, I wanted to give people an opportunity to learn about this parenting approach no matter where they were living. Soon after launching the classes, we started offering certificates so parents who were court ordered to take a class could get credit. Even though there were many books about this parenting approach, in-person classes were not available everywhere, so the internet was a great way to give all parents access.

Beginning in 1991, I saw families in my private counseling practice. I have been well trained in the Positive Discipline approach outlined by Alfred Alder and written about by several authors who have sought to put his teachings in a useable, intuitive, workable parenting system. I have worked with Lynn Lott and Jane Nelson, both authors of several books on this parenting style. In my own experience raising my children and working with families, Positive Discipline is my choice for teaching parents how to be effective in raising responsible, self-confident and cooperative kids.

Personal Parent Coaching Online
Online classes are helpful but nothing can compare to working together in person. I see clients online through Skype (PC or MAC) or FaceTime (MAC only). If you are interested in setting up an appointment just fill out this contact form and I will get back to you to set up a 15 minute phone interview. There is no charge or obligation for this phone interview. At that time, if we decide to work together we can set up a time for the first 50 minute session. The fee is $65 USD.

The parenting approach is based on the work of psychologist Alfred Adler and the idea that everyone, even children, want to feel significant and important within their family. Many things affect behavior/misbehavior. Understanding how children learn to be significant in their families shows parents how to influence and guide behavior toward cooperation, responsibility, self confidence and respect. This is done without punishment, bribing or grounding.

In working with parents, I focus on serveral points that I think are essential to the success of this parenting style:
• Your children are not out to get you
• Understanding the motivation behind misbehavior is critical to the success of this approach
* Focusing on what you say and do is more effective than trying to 'make' your child behave
• Be willing to give up spanking, bribing, lecturing and grounding

Here’s some problems that respond very well to this parenting approach.
Baby Sally shows up on the scene to delighted parents. They shower her with affection and attention. She doesn’t have much opportunity to learn how to put herself to sleep, play alone for short periods of time and has no real boundaries or limits. Now at 3, if she isn’t the center of attention 24/7 it is a major upset. Inadvertently, mom and dad have taught her that she is not important unless she has everyone’s undivided attention. Sally isn’t being ‘bad’ she is mistaken on how to behave to feel significant. Now that mom and dad understand the goal of her behavior, they can make corrections in how they are parenting and help Sally find more positive and cooperative ways to feel good about herself.

Second grader, Thomas is new to homework and is having trouble blocking out time to do it. What he would rather do is play after school. Because Mom is concerned he is developing bad habits, she is constantly reminding him to do it instead of recognizing that Thomas need some help becoming responsible for his own work. She doesn’t want him to fail or have to deal with his teacher if he doesn’t do it. It’s no longer about training Thomas how to be responsible for homework but has now turned into an ongoing power struggle to see who wins. Thomas gets to rebel against mom's constant reminders. With positive discipline after a period of adjustment, Thomas learns that he is responsible for his school work, mom can stop being the homework police and peace will be restored.

Fifteen year old Sam is upset because it seems that every time he turns around his parents are handing down more rules and restrictions that he feels are unfair. He feels that he is old enough to not be treated like a child. Mom and dad are still treating Sam like he needs lots of supervision and control to make sure he doesn’t get into trouble. With teenagers it is very important to include them on the discussions of rules, chores and curfews. Not that their ideas will always win but so the reasons behind them are clearly discussed. Also it is time for mom and dad to understand that being a teen means Sam is separating from his parents and developing his own ideas and attitudes. This does not mean that Sam gets to run the show but it means he is part of the decisions being made.

These are all common issues that positive discipline can help you deal with in effective, non-punitive ways.

With this kind and firm parenting approach, parents have the information they need to understand where misbehavior comes from. When parents have that understanding, how they deal with it becomes easy. Key to this approach is how parents respond to the misbehavior of their children. Change the response to the misbehavior, the behavior of the children changes.

Personal Parent Coaching Online
Online classes are helpful but nothing can compare to working together in person. I see clients online through Skype (PC or MAC) or FaceTime (MAC only). If you are interested in setting up an appointment just fill out this contact form and I will get back to you to set up a 15 minute phone interview. There is no charge or obligation for this phone interview. At that time, if we decide to work together we can set up a time for the first 50 minute session. The fee is $65 USD.

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