Your Parenting Style is Key to Raising Responsible Children
The "Do as I Say, Not as I Do" Parenting Style Doesn't Work Anymore
Have you ever done research on different parenting styles
in order to choose the best option? Or, do you approach parenting
from your experience of how you were raised as children. Perhaps
you have said to yourself, "I
will not raise my children the way my parents raised me" or "My
parents spanked me and I turned out okay, so spanking will work
on my children". Both responses are 'knee jerk' reactions
on how to parent, not a choice founded on sound child rearing principles.
You may not even question your parenting style until you start
having problems with your children. It may seem like suddenly
your current parenting style isn't work anymore and you don't
know why. Good parenting does not necessarily come naturally.
And, being a good parent is not easy but there are skills you
can learn to meet the challenge of good parenting. It takes finding
a sound, practical parenting style and then taking the time for
training and practice.
Parent education is not required but is becoming more and more
necessary and available as society has begun to value the job
of parenting. Learning good parenting skills that are respectful
and result oriented, is a challenge that can be met.
What Should You Expect from a Positive, Respectful Parenting Style?
• To eliminate the need for spanking, time-outs and grounding
• Move from reward and punishment discipline to influence and guide good behavior
• Learn effective techniques that make "Temper Tantrums" a thing
of the past
• A parenting style that is easy to implement and produces effective results
• A parenting style that can be effective through all the stages of childhood
• To guide children to be cooperative, responsible and happy
• The ability to create a positive and loving relationship with your children
• To be able to raise children who will be responsible adults
able to cope in the world
There are various parenting styles but they all fall into three
basic categories. Most parents will have one primary parenting
style but you may see aspects of your particular
parenting style in all of the them.
Giving Orders
This is an authoritarian parenting
style. Authoritarian parents don't feel they need to explain their rules or the reasons why they expect their children to do certain things. The main focus of these parents is on what their children do wrong and the punishment for misbehavior is often harsh. Should a child question a rule, they will often hear from their parents, "Because I said so". Parents that use this
style feel they must be in control all the time. They parent
by a set of rules that must be followed. Children have little
or no freedom. Discipline is
usually a form of reward and punishment. Children learn early
to please their parents to gain a reward. They may behave because
they fear their parents. Children either go along and have a
hard time learning to think for themselves or they may rebel
in reaction to the controlling methods of their parents.
Giving In
This is a permissive parenting style. Parents who adopt
this style may have concerns that their children will not like them
if they set limits or they see themselves as their children's friend
and not their parent who is there to guide and set limits.
These parents allow freedom with little or no responsibility. As their children get older these parents may feel they have no power to make changes in their children's misbehavior. Children without limits have no sense of responsibility, have trouble
with relationships and the rights of others and can find the
world a difficult place. It is unfair to raise a child without
limits or to keep changing the limits that are set. Children
do not need or want freedom without limitations.
Giving Choices
This is a democratic parenting style. The days of "Do what I say without question" are
over. This means having the attitude that both parents and children are equals. Not in the sense of life experience or intelligence but in value. From an early age parents have clear expectations for their children and enforce reasonable limits. Children are given limited choices to help them learn and experience the consequences of their choices and that their decisions count. Giving choices balances freedom with responsibilities.When children have some control and ownership in their lives they are more cooperative and have better self-esteem. Parents focus on encouragement and acknowledgment of good behavior. Parents focus on discipline that teaches not a one that intimidates with punishment or promotes good behavior with inappropriate rewards.
Where do you begin to learn a respectful and effective parenting style?
How do you know of that a democratic parenting styles will work in your family?
Which parental advice expert is the right one?
It is possible to replace your anxiety about doing it right with a confident parenting style?
Consider an Online Parenting Class.
• Our online parenting classes are facilitated by parenting experts so you don't have to struggle through books on parenting skills, parenting advice, parent training and positive parenting.
• Start learning and implementing effective parenting skills right away in our online parenting classes
• Parenting classes are based on the work of psychologist Alfred Adler. There are many parenting books that translate his approach into easy to understand language. We use the STEP Systematic Training for Effective Parenting, and Positive Discipline series books for the online parenting classes.
• Our facilitators are experts in this parenting style with years of experience
• Personal coaching available during the class 24/7 and after class is complete.
Your Certificate of Completion is Guaranteed to be Accepted by the Courts
If you need a Certificate of Completion we have provided you with information for court ordered parenting classes about the facilitators and the online parenting classes that you can print for your social worker, lawyer or family court. If you have completed the class, received your Certificate of Completion and it has not been accepted by the courts, we will refund the cost of the class and you can keep the parenting book! Please read our parenting class guarantee and If you need a refund, please contact us.
Does your agency need a parenting class that provides ongoing
support, the ability to track the progress of participants,
is based on natural and logical consequences not corporal punishment
and is an excellent model for families with a history of domestic
violence? If so contact
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